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My sister forwarded this to me today, and I thought it was worth posting because it seems to speak to people of all ages, not just middle-aged folks like me:

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need but looks so avant-garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon, before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 a.m. and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the '60s & '70s, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love—I will.


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Jul. 2nd, 2009 05:27 pm (UTC)
I've developed the manta of "Why wouldn't you treat yourself?"
Jul. 3rd, 2009 03:18 pm (UTC)
And why not? The rest of the world does a pretty good job beating up on us. We need to be friends to ourselves.
Jul. 3rd, 2009 05:10 am (UTC)
Let your soul shine,
Its better than sunshine,
Its better than moonshine,
Damn sure better than rain.
Lord now people dont mind,
We all get this way sometimes,
Gotta let your soul shine, shine till the break of day.

-Soulshine by the Allman Brothers band

saw this perfomed by Warren Haynes solo acoustic 8-6-04 as he opened for The Dead @ Darien Lake PAC and so help me god, there was mild overcast and the sun came out of nowhere when he played this.

onto my point. according to most folks, you get one go 'round at life. make the most of it. all the aforementioned items in your post, go for it if it makes ya happy. none of us are perfect, but perfect is borning. reading at obscene hours? done it. dance party for one (this is a DeadHead behind this keyboard), and its all good, let the soul shine, it beats the alternatives. i had one of my friends who was full of life, die at 17 and her service was the day before coming to Bonas. surreal is an injustice. she had Snapple, laughs, conversation and music (Guster and Elliot Smith), so full of life. decided my 18th birthday should be marked with a rootbeer and apple pie lunch for an All American Guy, even though she was a month early it remains one of the nicest things anyone has ever done.

life is delicate and can disappear in a blink. its meant to be enjoyed. i dont know if you know this or not, but i enjoy concerts. if i traded in my tickets, 96 shows for face value, id have over $3,000. no thanks. my teen and college years, my youth lives in an AC/DC tin, that barely closes. 96 shows and when my children ask "why, what kept you going back," then i bring out the recordings. Springsteen, Costello, Helm, Dylan, Dead, Lesh, Weir, Allmans, OAR, DMB etc....

keep on enjoying/truckin.

Jul. 3rd, 2009 03:16 pm (UTC)
You enjoy concerts? I never would have known.

Speaking of concerts, last night I saw Zappa Plays Zappa outdoors in downtown Buffalo with my friends nodressrehersal and her husband, and my nephew, a high school junior. If ZPZ ever comes to your neighborhood, go. Amazing, just amazing.
Jul. 4th, 2009 01:57 pm (UTC)
Wise words and all of them true - although I might be tempted to trade something for a flatter belly.
Jul. 4th, 2009 03:24 pm (UTC)
I hear ya. I'm not messy, so I should be allowed to exchange that for a few inches off the waistline.

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